Engaged Couple Forced to Hire Security at Their Destination Wedding After Ex Discovers Their Location and Arrives to Crash the Wedding

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Jul 4, 2024 9:00 PM EDT

Breaking up is hard, breaking up with someone who refuses to let go is even harder, then throw in the complications of divorce and child custody, and the situation becomes nearly impossible, because one way or another, the relationship has to keep going.

The man in this Reddit story did not expect to have so many complications with his ex, and his now fiance feels like those complications might seriously affect the relationship with her future husband. To give you a quick summary of the story down below – OP (original poster) has planned a destination wedding with her fiance and his son, only to find out that her fiance's ex, his son's mother, found out about their wedding and intends to crash it. Now the couple is looking for solutions in order to avoid the drama, going as far as hiring security to keep her out.

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  • 01
    My fiancé's ex (34F) booked to stay minutes away from us (28F & 31M) when we are away for our destination wedding. Helppp?
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    So my fiancé (31M) and I (28F) are getting married abroad after nearly 4 years together. His psycho ex (34F) is known for h、 ing her ex's, befriending their baby mumma's and making
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    false accusations to police. My fiancé has a child with her so sadly we have to deal with her tapped behaviours for many years.
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    The latest move she has made is to book to stay just minutes away from where we are having our destination wedding. She manipulates my stepson (8M) (the child she shares with my fiancé) and squeezes information out of
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    him. The latest she has extracted from him is the exact place we are staying and where we are having our wedding abroad. Due to him coming with us she had to be informed of the dates we are taking him out of the country.
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    I hate the thought of going around the town and bumping into her, or my stepson requesting to spend time with her when we are away on our holiday for mine and his dad's wedding.
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    Even more so, I hate the fact she could turn up at the address we are staying at to try to put a dampener on what should be such a special occasion that we have waited so long for.
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    Honestly it makes me feel sick and really makes me think of what my future looks like if these are the lengths she will go to. Just to add we are unable to change the location now due to non refundable deposits.
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  • 09
    What would you do in this situation? I feel so sad about it and would be so grateful of any tips of how to deal with this situation.
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    thickhipstightlips . 1 day ago I would tell security (if you have them at your wedding) to not allow her in.
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    tossaway 78701 · 14 hr. ago Hotel security, wedding security, and maybe have a talk with local police (depending on destination). You should recruit a few family members to keep a buffer too.
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    butwhyfriend 1 day ago What does your fiancé say about her behavior?
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    Saffisticated OP · 1 day ago edited 1 day ago He thinks she's crazy, she stopped him from seeing his child for nearly a year after they broke up due to just no longer seeing eye to eye and the stress of a baby. When my fiancé took her to court so that he could see his son, she then made false allegations
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    (which had him arrested and now has from this) so that she could get free legal aid. I genuinely think she needs assistance with her mental health.
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    Huntress145.1 day ago He needs to contact his lawyer again and let them know what is going on
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    Saffisticated OP. 1 day ago Thank you, he is going to contact his lawyer on Monday
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    in_and_out_burger · 1 day ago Put a password on any wedding stuff at the venue in case she tries to change or cancel anything like your catering etc
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    thatattyguy 1 day ago You tell your stepson you got a refund and are going to X hotel in Y country. Let him blab to his mom.
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    Saffisticated OP. 1 day ago We did think about doing this but I believe as the other parent, she has to legally be informed of which country her child is being taken to. I'm not 100% sure on this so if anyone does know for
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    definite that would be amazing? Also, there's the possibility if we say we have gone elsewhere and then bump into her due to her staying in the same town as us, this could possibly cause legal issues
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    arianrhodd · 1 day ago What is your fiance doing to set/enforce boundaries with her and help his child deal with her manipulation?
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    Saffisticated OP · 1 day ago · edited 1 day ago • To be honest he doesn't do anything really, due to her false accusations etc in the past he feels like he is on egg shells.
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    HeartAccording5241 1 day ago Don't let her ruin it she can only ruin it if you allow it and stop telling step son info
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    Saffisticated OP - 1 day ago Thank you, he is excellent at remembering small details and as we involved him in the process when arranging our wedding and showed him images etc he knew and remembered the location. We have
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    now agreed we will not tell him things because of her manipulative ways but this feels a real shame as we like him to be included and he likes to know what's happening too
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    HISXRABBIT · 1 day ago Hire security. And laugh? 10 ⑧ Reply Share Saffisticated OP. 1 day ago This may well be what we do, thank you for suggesting ☺
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